Hey friends. It’s been a while, huh? It’s been almost a year since my last blog post. I’ve just been feeling so… stuck lately. And for no reason in particular. I just haven’t known what I want my next moves to look like so I haven’t made any moves. I’ve been stuck. Sure, there have been some wins that I should celebrate, but as far as moving through life in ways I hoped for … I’ve just been so. damn. stuck.
The good news though? The muck and the fog and the stuck have expiration dates. They don’t last forever and when they start to clear or move, you CAN and NEED to capitalize on that shift before you get pulled back into another stuck cycle. But how you ask? Ohhhh you know I’ve got this for ya!
6 Things to Do When Feeling Stuck
Just Keep Swimming
Seriously… just keep on swimming. I know you don’t want to and you’re probably tired and so over it but you gotta! When you’re stuck, you don’t feel like doing anything. But you HAVE to. Retreating, quitting, staying in bed… it all may feel good in the short term, but none of that will help you in the long run. If you let life fall to the wayside, you’re going to have an even bigger mess to clean once the stuck starts to clear. I’m not saying to you need to be out there starting initiatives and winning awards… Just keep swimming. I know you’ve got this.
Listen and Pay Attention
There are two parts to this. First, listening and paying attention might help you figure out what’s going on with you. Maybe you’re in a bad relationship or your job is not right for you. This also might be a time to adjust your thoughts and realign your beliefs to what feels good for you. What you believe about yourself and your world creates your reality. Maybe there is a new story to be written.
The second part is listening and paying attention to when you feel ready to go full steam ahead again. If you’re feeling stuck it’s probably for a reason so you should not be pushing yourself too hard to do things before you are ready. However at the same time, you won’t know you’re ready unless you’re listening. And listening to what you might ask? Yourself! Listening to yourself is how you’ll know when you’re ready to start crawling out of the muck. When you get those pings, no matter how small, it’s your job to do something with them. Read a book, take a class, go for a walk, just do something to stop feeling stuck and start moving forward again.
Try new things. You might be feeling stuck because you might be bored. Or your current hobbies are not stimulating you enough. Or maybe you need to let new people into your life. Feeling stuck means something isn’t right so being open to other actions, opportunities, people, etc. will help you keep moving forward.
Don’t paint a mental picture of what your life needs to look like to be out of this stuck phase or it’s never going to happen. You need to move the needle bit by bit to be set free. Expectations will do nothing but hold you back, disappoint you, and kick you back down if things don’t go the way you have planned. Just go with the flow.
Plenty of research shows that holding a grudge holds us back. So if you don’t follow my advice about expectations and someone ends up letting you down, make sure you follow my advice about forgiveness. Simply, just forgive or it’s going to hold you back. By holding a grudge, you put the control on the other person’s plate. Your world is in their hands. So if you’re holding a grudge, it makes sense that you feel stuck. Let. That. Shit. Go.
What better way to move the needle than with goals?! And they really don’t have to be anything big. In fact, if you’re feeling stuck they shouldn’t be big. You should set goals that are easy wins. This will make you feel good as well as have a sense of accomplishment which is great for boosting motivation. Goals I like to make when feeling stuck can include doing laundry once a week and actually putting my clothes away instead of leaving them in a pile for a week (fine, a month). Doing my dishes right away instead of leaving them in the sink. Do a 5 min yoga flow before getting ready for work. Take Princess Myla (my pup) for a 20 min walk every day. These all seem like really easy basic #adulting things but when I get stuck, these are some of the first things I let go of. In order to reclaim my life and my freedom, I like to set goals that push me towards a level of functioning I want for my life.
What do you do when you’re over feeling stuck?
Tell me in the comments below!
I’m Michelle, the founder of life & style blog, She’s Not So Basic. On the blog I write about all things related to style advice, self-love, finding happiness, and so much more while wearing both my heart and my scars on my sleeve. My path through life has been anything but basic and it’s left me feeling lost, lonely, and insecure. Every day is a journey towards feeling confident and finding freedom one not-so-basic outfit at a time. Connect with me to see how we can work together, to tell me your #NotSoBasic story, or just to say hi!